Yes it’s the first one. Yes it’s that important. And yes it’s hard. But only as hard as you make it. Learn to forgive, learn the lesson, and let it go. Forgiveness is an ongoing process, so you’ll get plenty of practice. The Ancients say “nature abhors a vacuum”. Meaning where there is space, the Universe will always rush to fill it. Think about it like this: You can’t receive the goodness God has for you with a closed hand. Letting go is a signal that you are ready to receive more and you can’t do that ifyou’re still holding on to past grudges, and harboring un-forgiveness in your heart. It stops your flow, so it’s in your own best interests to learn how to let go.
2. Negative thoughts and words
Your thoughts are a form of energy and when it comes to energy, like attract like. Your words give your thoughts power. Make sure to only use kind loving thoughts and words when you’re talking to yourself. You wouldn’t talk to a child or your friend unkindly, so give yourself the same respect. Be as loving and gentle to yourself as you would a baby. Speak only in terms of WHAT YOU WANT!! When you give focus and attention to what you don’t want, that’s what you’re attracting more of. The more you complain about your current circumstances, the more they’ll stay the same. Try something different this time. Instead of focusing on lack, or negativity, turn your attention to what’s plentiful and positive, and that’s what will show up.
3. Living for other people
DO YOU! Regardless of what your Mama, Daddy, husband, family, children or anybody else thinks. Do what makes YOU feel good. You were born alone, and will die the same way. What’s important is that you have to be able to look YOU in the eyes and like what you see. Focus on what pleases YOU.Women are generally groomed for everyone’s pleasure except their own. We know our kid’s favorite everything, and let’s not even talk about the lengths we go for #his pleasure. But when someone asks us what WE want, **crickets**. Take time to find out what turns YOU on, and then actually do those things. The truth is the feminine energy is actually a receiving one. But through societal and culture changes, we’ve become the givers more than receivers. Our role is to take what we’re given and grow it. I.E. The man gives us a seed, and we grow it into a baby. It’s natural for us to want to give, BUT the important thing to remember is the feminine energy gives BACK. You can only give back if you’ve received first, and you cannot give of an empty cup. Take time to do what YOU like. Fill yourself up with lots of love, and self-value. REMEMBER: True generosity comes from a place or surplus.
We all have what author Gay Hendricks called and Upper Limit Problem. It basically means that because of past conditioning, there’s only so much “good” we’ll allow in our lives. It’s not until we identify those Upper Limit Problems (ULP’s) that we’re able to reach our “Zone of Genius” as he named it. Think about it. How many times has life been going smooth as silk and then something bad happens? It’s kinda like what people call the curse of the Lottery. Some people aren’t prepared to receive THAT much money at once, so they attract experiences that reaffirm their belief of unworthiness. It’s mainly subconscious, but you get scared of all the goodness you’re experiencing so you had to find a way to stop it in order to stay comfortable.Awareness is key. Watch for patterns so you can identify whenan Upper Limit Belief or an ULP presents itself. Have the courage to move past them and make decisions that are in line with your goals, and not out of fear.
5. Looking for Prince Charming
Let me save you some time. He ain’t coming. Not the Knight in Shining Armor scenario you have in your head anyway. Whenyou do get into a relationship, positioning him as your “savior” i.e. finances, social status etc, is setting yourself up for failure.Only you can save you. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can get on with saving yourself. And while we’re on it, stopplaying victim! Accept your part of the mess so you can begin to clean it up. By always thinking its’ somebody else’s fault, you’re giving your power away. The answer is never too far from the question, and it begins and ends with you.
6. Not staying in Gratitude
Be thankful for EVERYTHING! Even when it looks like there’s nothing to be grateful for, be grateful for breath. Blessing what you already have is the fastest way to having more! Keep a gratitude journal, but when it comes to gratitude, the trick is to be super specific, and generate (on a major level) the feeling of it. So instead of listing 5-10 things I’m grateful for, I choose one specific thing per day and list 5 reasons I’m grateful for it. That helps me really zero in the WHY which is the catalyst for the feeling.
Women unconsciously go through life with our sense of pleasure dulled by the demands of life. And that’s so unnecessary, because we were born with the ability to create the most exciting, pleasurable life we could possibly think of. It just takesa DECISION and a lot of courage. Living an abundant life on your terms requires you to be PRESENT and rooted in your self-value, and requires you keep vigilant over your mind and tongue.
Sarah Johnson is a Money Mindset Mentor, Visionary, and Women’s Lifestyle Alchemist. She is committed to empowering women to become their own Princ(ess) Charming, and claiming their crown through increasing Wealth Consciousness, and expressing our full value to the world! Connect with Sarah at www.SARAHDJOHNSON.com