Crystal divorced her husband of twelve years in June of 2013 as a result of infidelity. The divorce both devastating and heartbreaking left Crystal to adjust to a new reality of being single and a single mom. Crystal attributes her faith in God, family, and friends support overcoming the challenges and trauma of utter heartbreak caused by divorce and self disappointment.
On April 8, 2018 Pierre unexpectedly asked Crystal for her hand in marriage again. Crystal said yes and a reconciliation ceremony was performed on June 2, 2018. Crystal along with her husband, have made it a mission and priority to share with others their powerful testimony of faith, forgiveness, love and God’s reconciling powers through their personal ministry “Better2Gether.” Crystal is currently working on her first book entitled, “The Art of Forgiveness” ; A Woman’s Journey on learning to love herself again and remarrying her husband after their painful divorce
Define what true love is.
Crystal: True love to me is selfless. it’s putting someone else needs or desires before your own. It’s action as much as it is a feeling. True love is trusting and leaves room for growth. True love is forgiving.
Why are you so big on marriages being revived?
Crystal: I love, “Love!” I now believe their is hope for marriages on life support. If you have a husband and wife who love each other, and are willing to put the work in, the marriage CAN be revived! I honestly didn’t have this hope in marriage until God did it for me. And now I want to tell everybody that marital revival IS possible. I also understand not every marriage will be revived. But I do believe marriage is worth fighting for until the end.
Do you believe that anything is forgivable in a marriage?
Crystal: I believe you can forgive anything with God’s help. But rather or not a marriage can recover from hurtful experiences and broken trust is up to the married couple. I always felt I had to forgive Pierre (my husband) but I didn’t have to remarry him to prove he was forgiven. Forgiveness was the key that opened the door for me see that I could love him as a husband again after he asked me to marry him for the second time. In order to recover from the trespasses that have happened, both spouses have to have the same goal which is to recover and move forward. This means they have to be willing to do what each other needs to recover.
What’s different about Crystal this time around?
Crystal: I got a life lol! I used to fill my time playing detective and being Pierre’s shadow. And that was so consuming and draining. I was trying to control and prevent things from happening in my marriage. In retrospect, while trying to protect my marriage, I was carrying out roles that wasn’t mine to fulfill as a wife. Quoting scriptures to him and reminding him of his Biblical responsibilities. He doesn’t need me for that, he has a Pastor. An amazing one at that, Pastor Tim Harris of the Turning Point Family Worship Center. Pierre didn’t need another mother telling him what to do regardless of how much I didn’t trust his decision making process. This time around I am not trying to control nothing when it comes to Pierre. I want to be his wife, friend, and his lover. And by being these things to him, it gives me great influence in his decision. (Smile)
What’s love got to do with it?
Crystal: Love has everything to do with it. Love makes you do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do. I don’t enjoy watching sci-fi movies and getting up early in the morning to cook breakfast. But I will watch Aliens vs Predator and get up to make bacon and eggs because that’s what he likes and wants. Because that’s his love language.
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“God can help you forgive what you can’t forget!” @EvangelistTanyaHarris